Behavior Management Tools & Tips
Practical Guidelines for Balanced Behaviors
How can we support productive behavioral habits?
Set clear expectations. Establish rules that are age-appropriate, easy to understand, and consistently enforced. One of the best ways to get kids on board with new rules is to include them in the process. Collaborate to find rules that match the values and goals of the whole family!
Provide consistent guidance. Positive reinforcement acknowledges and rewards prosocial behavior in children. By providing appropriate praise, encouragement, or (with discretion) small rewards when a child exhibits positive actions or follows rules, parents can reinforce those behaviors. This approach helps to strengthen the child's understanding of what is expected of them and contributes to the development of healthy self-esteem, intrinsic motivation, and a sense of responsibility. (But beware of unsustainable reward cycles! Learn more about that here.)
Foster a positive environment. Parental support is crucial for a child's overall well-being and development. By offering a stable and nurturing environment, parents provide emotional security and cultivate a healthy parent-child bond. Encouragement, involvement, active listening, and guidance from the parent help instill trust, confidence, and a sense of belonging in the child.
While behavior management initially requires substantial guidance and support from adults, the long-term goal is to help kids internalize coping skills as an automatic response to upset.
Here are some of our favorite tools to help develop and reinforce coping skills and self-control:
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